Brad's a master of body language...
Today I’m going to talk about using your body language to attract women. This is one of the most crucial pieces of creating attraction, but it is also something that is widely misunderstood, so hopefully I can shed some light on this subject for you.
Now you may have heard about the university research studies which found that something like 93% of all communication is non-verbal… a lot of PUAs and other “dating experts” like to make a big deal out of statistics like this and try to use them to impress upon you the importance of body language.
But honestly I don’t give a damn about a research study! …What I care about are RESULTS.
And the fact of the matter is that body language is an incredibly powerful tool for getting a woman’s attention and getting her to perceive you in a particular way. I’ve had a number of women tell me that they can always tell whether they are going to like a guy or not based on the way he carries himself.
So in other words if you screw up the way that you walk over to a girl it doesn’t matter what you say… She has already made her decision about you. (Yes, perhaps you can talk your way out of it… but that’s a lot of work and it’s not necessary if you get the body language stuff correct up front!)
I have also had MANY young women flag me down to talk to me as I walk the streets, because they are attracted based solely on the non-verbal cues I’m giving off… So I am convinced that developing body language that attracts women is a important skill for any man to develop.
I mean heck, what other pick up skill can you develop that is going to get women to approach you?
So with that in mind here are three tips for using body language that is attractive to women.
3 Tips On How To Attract Women With Body Language
1) Keep your head and torso up and your shoulders back
It may seem elementary, but posture is extremely important when it comes to displaying attractive male body language. Most men that you see make the mistake of slouching over when they walk around. Allowing your shoulders to roll forward has the effect of making you appear smaller, weaker, and basically like an insecure loser. It makes you look like you are afraid to take up space, as if you are trying to hide yourself… Obviously that is NOT attractive to women.
So, always make an effort to keep your shoulders pulled back and low. Keep your sternum up, and your neck straight so that your head stays level.
You may feel awkward doing this at first since you have probably spent years practicing bad posture, but trust me if you make a point to use correct posture from here on out it will soon feel quite natural and you will feel wrong if you ever start to revert back to you old unattractive posture.
2) Don’t be afraid of eye contact
Eye contact is actually one of the most important parts of body language. There is a ton that you can do with eye contact to attract women, and I can’t cover it all here… But the bottom line is that you need to learn not to be afraid of making eye contact with very attractive chicks.
Most guys are afraid of getting “caught” checking out a hot chick as if there was something wrong with it. So what they do is they’ll look at an attractive girl all lustfully and then look away all quick if she looks at him… This is totally backwards!
Instead you want to be able to look at girls all you want and you want them to be the ones who get shy when eye contact is made.
Until you are able to overcome your fear of making eye contact with attractive women you are never going to be successful with them and you are going to be forced to only date girls that you are not attracted to, and that stinks! Don’t let that happen to you!
You’ve got to realize that there is really no shame in getting caught checking out a hottie. Women LIKE getting checked out, you’ve just got to own it, so that when a girl does notice you checking her out you can just smile back and then start a conversation with her.
3) Walk like a man
As I touched on, the way that you walk is an extremely important factor for attracting women with your body language. And just as most men are afraid to display proper posture, most men are also scared to walk in an assertive, masculine way that is attractive to women.
I don’t want to get into the psychology behind why men are scared to walk like men, but unfortunately for most dudes that’s just the way that it is… However, you don’t need to be another victim.
The most basic part of walking like a man is to take big steps and to lead with your pelvis. You should also let your arms sway naturally, and you should remember to keep your head and chest up as we discussed in tip number one.
These three body language tips alone can make a massive difference in the way that you are perceived by others, and they can get women to feel massive attraction for you without you even needing to open your mouth!
Learning body language is something that pays enormous dividends and that’s why I strongly urge you to continue your study of this topic.
One resource I recommend highly is John Alexanders How To Become An Alpha Male. This is a great book that covers many different aspects of being a man who naturally attracts women and the sections on flirting body language and interpreting body language are the best I’ve seen anywhere… Here’s the link to learn body language to attract women from John.
